By Rabbi David Ashaer
If a person doesn’t get what he wants, it is not because Hashem doesn’t love you. It is because He knows that right now, this is what’s best for you. Hashem knows the future. He knows what we need to accomplish and how we will be able to accomplish it, and He acts accordingly. We have to train ourselves to always think, גם זו לטובה – This too is for the best. Even what appears to be the most difficult situation is actually Hashem’s loving kindness acting for our benefit.
A man told me that his wedding date was January 7, 1996. The guest list was short, as he was marrying an orphan, and both he and his bride had very small families. To make matters worse, that day, New York was hit with one of the worst blizzards ever. By the time the wedding was set to start, a foot and a half of snow had fallen, and it was still coming down. Nobody could drive, and it looked like the wedding would be a disaster. One of the local rabbis called all the neighbors, telling them that it is a Mitzva to come immediately to this wedding. He even invited the local Yeshiva. It turned out to be one of the liveliest, most festive weddings, with hundreds of boys dancing. People were so inspired that they became religious just from being there. It was a wedding that no one would ever forget.
Fourteen years later, the groom’s older sister was finally getting married. It was her first marriage and her groom’s second. Again, the families were not large, but whoever was coming was very excited. This wedding was set to take place on a hot August night in a Shul in Deal, New Jersey. Everyone recalled the eventful wedding of ’96, but they knew that would not happen now-or would it? As Hashgacha would have it, right after the ceremony, the police entered the Shul, which was located in a quiet neighborhood, and evacuated the entire building because of a bomb scare. This was unheard of. There had never been a bomb scare in that area before, and there hasn’t been one since.
The entire wedding party left the building and was standing in the parking lot. The doors of the Shul were locked, with the police guarding the building. All the food and music were left inside. Time passed, the guests were waiting outside sweating, but they were not being allowed back in. People began to leave.
One of the bride’s friends came and saw what was happening and quickly went into action. She knew of someone with a garage full of water bottles. She asked to bring them to the wedding and distribute them to the guests. Then, she asked the neighbor if she could use their backyard to dance. The neighbor was happy to help. All of the sudden, chairs and tables were being set up. A local DJ arrived with his equipment, free of charge. The backyard became a reception area. The woman then called someone who had just made a large barbeque for an organization and asked if she could bring the leftovers. The hot food arrived. Hundreds of young ladies were asked to come and dance with the bride. Yeshiva boys were called to dance with the groom. Within half an hour, it was the liveliest scene anyone could have imagined.
Finally, at 11:30 pm the Shul was reopened, and the reception moved inside. At that moment, none other than Yaakov Shwekey walked in to sing. Someone had called him to do a Chesed and save the wedding. The crowd became charged. They danced until 2AM. It turned out to be the most memorable wedding. The bride said afterward that she had always wanted Yaakov Shwekey to sing at her wedding but couldn’t afford it. Now she got what she wanted-and much more.
גם זו לטובה – Everything always works out for the best. Sometimes we see how, but most times, we don’t. Yet, we can rest assured that Hashem is always doing the best for us.