Thank You Hashem – Special

Thank you, Hashem! This is one of those things that I don’t know where to begin so I will begin with thanking Hashem for the beautiful exciting site of seeing my daughter go into labor at about 4:30 am Friday night. My wife headed to the hospital with them as we had our controlled chaos in the house preparing to get her ready for the car service. I went to shul in the morning and came home to be with my kids and have Shabbat lunch together with them.

I then made the long joyous walk to Maimonides Hospital. Imagining I would be walking into the room greeted with a mabruk it’s a ___.  Baruch Hashem walked into the room and they were still waiting around in the labor room. I was grateful to Hashem that I would be able to be by the birth of my first grandchild. Things were very calm and I decided to maybe go out into the hallway for as stroll, as I was preparing to walk out the Dr. was walking in, she quickly and calmly said, we are ready let’s have this baby and she sent me outside behind the curtain of the room into the hallway. She said in 15 minutes we will have a baby here. I was overwhelmed I couldn’t believe my ears. I am the excited crying type and was flushed with emotion and started praying right there in the hallway like a man on a mission. Things were moving along in the delivery room as I was praying in the hall. Feeling a drop woozy I then remembered reading on our Parasha sheets in Peh Tahor from Rabbi Brezak all about the shehakol campaign and the great shehakol stories from people making the beracha. I called thru the curtain to my wife to send me out a bottle of water, my wife looked for the water and I hear the Dr. say who is the water for? she said for my husband-my wife knows her husband and said don’t ask-he needs the water, and quickly got the water to me. I said a very loud shehakol in the hallway with kavana and within 5 minutes the baby was born without me hearing one sign of discomfort from my daughter Baruch Hashem! She had a baby boy! I danced in the hallway singing Hashem’s praises out loud in front of everyone as I promised Hashem I would do when I hear the news of the baby being born. We were overwhelmed with joy.

We had a great hour or so of Simcha that I am so grateful for-then the nurse comes to us and says she wants the pediatric surgeon to come and speak to us-we were like, who? what? – she said she might see an issue. They explained to us a certain situation that he had but can be corrected. The surgeon came and told us that there was a way to do it with 1 surgery but that was 1 in a million and made a motion with his hands shrugging it off and said I am not even going to talk to you about that option it is 1 in a million and this is not the 1 over here. He then explained the 3-part solution that would require 3 separate surgeries spaced out over 2 or 3 months! We were stunned by the turn of events-worried for what lied ahead but ok knowing he was going to be ok after this strenuous process. Now it was time to get into motion of seeing what to do- Baruch Hashem we are blessed with Rabbis and organizations that words cannot describe that get everything in motion and guide our decisions. I was not happy to have this hospital do this procedure but needed to hear what to do. My mother was the first call, the entire Shabbat I said we need my mother she knows how to react in these situations. She told me call Rabbi Raymond Beyda, I say but I think he only deals with halachic issues, she said call- I did-was great move, I can’t describe how Rabbi Beyda helped thru out the whole process clearly, not sugarcoating anything. He had me get in touch asap with Rabbi Shuki Berman, he said he will email him to take my call right away-before I could call him, my phone rings and its Rabbi Shuki Berman, my mother called him and Rabbi Beyda emailed him. I utter out the long name of what is going on and he quickly says yes, it’s a 3-surgery situation, get him out of this hospital Dr. Rosen is a specialist in this field he is in Long Island Jewish Medical center- give me the word and I will get the transfer to happen-I was stunned- I said I will speak to my family and get back to you. We made several calls and it was unanimous that we must get to this specialist. Everyone’s reaction was the same.

Got the wheels in motion with Shuki Berman. He calls back with instructions to go down to the NICU and what to tell them. This was about 2 am. We followed instructions and they were not eager to let us out. They sat us in a conference room intimidating us and explaining why we will have such a hard time if we leave. The Dr. said there is a 0 percent chance of you leaving in the middle of the night especially on a weekend. The Dr. stepped out to get a chart from the baby. I text Rabbi Beyda the status, he told me to have my wife go in the hall and call the 516 number Shuki gave me and tell them we will handle the ambulance for the transfer, he said this is what holds up the insurance and it will get things going. They will say ok-he said trust me this will do it, go. My wife was nervous about going into the hall and calling but Hashem took care of it. The door opens with a nurse standing there with a phone in her hand and says, if you will handle the ambulance I can approve the transfer right now-is that ok? we were like-ok we approve…Baruch Hashem.

About an hour later there we were on highways driving to this Hospital in Long island and my son in-law says to me- That Dr. said 0 percent of leaving in the middle of the night. Here we are-we get there and it is a different world. We are greeted with smiles and told we know this is a difficult time for you but we are going to do anything to make it as pleasant as possible.

Everything going nicely and in order over here. The surgeon speaks to us and tells us the same 3 surgery process and then mentions the possibility of the 1 surgery if they physically see a certain step taken by the baby. I said the other hospital said it is 1 in a million, do you think this can happen? He says I think it is possible. Wow- we had an opening of hope. As time was progressing we were not seeing this step by the baby. My son in-law asked the Dr. what if the step is happening inside but just not showing outside can we do it, to that they replied sorry but no. A few hours later my son in-law calls me and tells me the surgeon just called him and said that she is not going to be performing the surgery that a different surgeon is taking over. I said no way I am calling the Surgeon and telling her, we escaped and came here in the middle of the night for you, not to be handed off. I was ready to push hard. Before calling I call Shuki and tell him what happened so he can help on his end. He asked who is the new surgeon and I tell him his name and he quickly says this is a Beracha from Hashem- he is the chief surgeon there! You have been upgraded, he is the teacher for the other surgeon and he is her elder and has much more experience, do not call the hospital. Thank you, Hashem, for controlling me.

That night in the room we ask the nurse if she thinks there is any chance of the 1 surgery even though they did not physically see this step? She politely said sorry but it seems like we are doing the 3-surgery process, so sorry. The next morning, the day of the surgery me and my wife were in the room with the new surgeon and his team. You can see he was the real deal. They begin to give us information and they say there is a chance they can do the 1 surgery procedure but he will not know for sure until they are in the surgery. If not, he will have to switch to the 3-surgery option. I thought I was hearing things. We all agreed to go for it. We couldn’t believe it, he was willing to do it even though he did not physically see the step the other surgeon needed to see. He said it is close enough on the inside that he is confident even without physically seeing it.

Hashem sent this experienced surgeon to us against our will for him to have the knowledge needed to go for the 1 surgery process without physically seeing it. Hashem is pushing all the buttons. I was with my son in-law many hours straight but when the surgeon called him I happened to not be there. I would have probably got on the phone and begged her to stay and do the surgery. Hashem had me call Shuki before calling the surgeon and he gave me the information on the new surgeon and stopped me from possibly ruining everything.

We were all praying so hard for the surgeon to be masliach and able to do it with the 1 surgery option. Before the surgeon left the room, I told him how hard we have been praying to do this 1 option that we were told was 1 in a million. I told him how highly Shuki spoke of him and how happy I was that he is the surgeon. I then told him how I am praying for him to be successful with this and all his surgeries. I told him there is a G-d that is in control and we are his messengers. He was very accepting and jokingly said I hope I can live up to your expectations. I said me too!!

Surgery begins. Our most awesome family behind us all the way. Tefilot all over by so many of our caring out of this world people, sedaka being given all around, learning Torah all around. Our people are so wonderful. Hashem somehow had me and my son in-law accidentally end up by the Lubavitcher Rebbes Kever and were zocheh to pray there. Hashem blessed me with such a group of friends, my phone did not stop with messages and calls. Even if I could not take the calls you have no idea how much they helped. I had/have a friend guiding me the whole way thru serious portions of this and non-sense as well- I am blessed to know such a person who is always there for me. Always. Intense praying thru out the surgery. The surgeon returns with the great news of Hashem’s kindness that he could do it with the 1 surgery. He told us of hashgacha that went on in the operating room how he there happened to be another surgeon he needed in the room that stepped in to help with a certain process. Hashem pushes all the right buttons for us. I stepped aside to call our worried family and friends. I am walking around the lobby and see my son in-law and daughter inside the gift shop giggling and looking at the toys and stuffed animals for their new baby, this was a magical moment for me-the page being turned seeing the new parents able to enjoy the Simcha of being blessed with a baby. I was so worried about them being stripped of that joyous pleasure so this was a tearful breath of fresh air for me to see. I rushed and bought my new grandson the stuffed singing doll they were looking at. Hashem is so great to us and guides us so perfectly. Thank you, Hashem, for my first healthy Grandson-Bh he should make you very proud! Serving you Bisimcha with 120 Happy and Healthy years.

Thank You Hashem Special – Week 173

-My gold bangles were missing. I looked everywhere for them! I searched over and over for them. I had a worker in my home the day they went missing. My family suspected he took them. I said the prayer for finding a lost object and gave sedaka then I continued to look some more… sure enough I found them in a place that I had checked at least three times! Hashem opened my eyes and let me find them. Thank You Hashem!!!!

  • I just had a thought on Parashat VaYetzeh that I like to share with everyone. Yaakov Avinu prays for Lechem Leechol (bread to eat) Ubeged Lilbosh (and clothes to wear) that a person always has to Thank H-shem for all the food that we eat and that we are healthy to be able to eat it and for each and every piece of clothes B”H so many different colors, types, styles that we have and we can wear and B”H not walk around barminan in a hospital gown.

-I thank Hashem for the nes and Chesed he has done for us.  I would like to share with all of you an amazing story that changed our lives forever. On December 5th 2014   (יג כסלו) Friday morning, about 10 am while I was at work. I got a phone call from my house. Knowing that my wife would regularly be at work at that time, I picked up the phone with a little trepidation, not expecting to hear a strange voice letting me know that my wife had fainted and she was being rushed to Maimonides hospital. Before I go on I just want to let everyone know that the nes started that same day because my wife fainted at the front door with it open as she was about to leave to work and Hashem gave her enough strength to scream for help before losing consciousness.  A random person and a nurse that just so happened to be passing by heard it and rushed to my wife’s aid. The reason I say that, is because if it would have happened five minutes earlier she would have been behind a closed door and chas veshalom no one would have heard her and she could have been chas veshalom holding the baby. And if it would happen five minutes later she would have been in the car driving on the way to work with baby in the back Hashem yerachem. So I also thank Hashem for letting it happen that very minute and not before or after. (Back to the story) I got to the hospital as my wife was wheeled in and I have never seen her like that, it really scared me. They rushed her in to the cat scan to look at the head, only to come out and give me the worst news I can possibly get, that she had a brain aneurysm and that she has bleeding in the brain and they have to perform an emergency operation to release the pressure of the brain to try to stop the bleed. I broke into tears trying to take in what they had just told me and in the same time trying to think what decision to make. The doctor told me time is a big factor and we have to make a fast decision. B”h I had my sister and a special shaliach that helped me through out the whole time. They rushed her into the operating room to put a drain in the brain and at the same time the doctor will try to stop the bleeding with a less invasive operation which means going in through the main artery in the leg up into the brain. We right away spread the word and my wife’s situation went viral. The doctor came out letting me know that b”h he was able to put in the drain, but with the same breath told me that he couldn’t stop the bleed because of the place where it was, which was a non-common spot and on a very small vessel and he did not feel confident he can get to it. I can’t even begin to describe how that made me feel and what that made me think. The next step was to actually go in and remove a part of the brain so they can get to the bleed, with only Hashem knowing what the end results would have been. The doctor had said many things that I’d rather not repeat but one can only imagine what, (within 24 hours ______lo aleinu) . At this time she was in stable but critical condition and I had to act fast, like I said time was of the essence. B”h with much help of a lot of people especially that shliach that was able to guide me to the right doctor and actually called the Chief doctor in NY Presbyterian that he personally knows and made all the arrangements for my wife to be transferred there. At this point my wife was in the N.I.C.U on a respirator fighting for her life while we were waiting for transportation. Later that night, at about 10pm Friday night she was transported to NY Presbyterian hospital N.I.C.U. Shabbat morning me and my sister met with the Chief neurosurgeon and chief noninvasive neurosurgeon. They basically told me the same things over, letting me know how serious her condition is and that the aneurysm caused a stroke to the left side of her body. They both decided that they want to try again the noninvasive procedure, which means going through the main artery in the leg all the way up to the brain to try and stop it. If that didn’t work, they would then have to go in and remove some of the brain to get to it, and if she would survive it would be under very different circumstances and her life, our life would be changed for ever.  I asked the doctors why they feel they will be able to do it. They just said they feel they may have a 25% chance. They said that every hospital has different tools and they want to give it a try once more before going to the next step. The first thing I thought was that everyone’s tefilot all through the night definitely helped because that was the first relatively good news I had gotten. The doctor told me that the surgery would take anywhere from an hour to eight hours. I brook down crying shook the doctor’s hands and told him take care of my wife and we will be praying for him so that G-d directs his hands in the right direction. He thanked me and said he will do the best he can. B”h with everyone’s tefilot and all the tears that were spilled the doctor came out of the OR after about an hour and a half, and to be honest after telling me how complicated and how big the risk is and how long it may take I was scared to see him so soon and thought the worst. As the doctor sat down next to me in the waiting room I again just started crying not knowing what he is about to tell me. He took a deep breath and then told us about the big miracle that happened. He had gone in to view the aneurysm only to find out that a blood clot had formed over it, causing the bleeding to stop. I shook his hand and asked him if he believes in miracles. He smiled and said, “I know u guys pray a lot and have very strong faith. In my 30 plus years of being a doctor I have never seen anything like this and there is no other way of explaining what had happened.” The whole time I prayed to Hashem that I know that everything he does is letova but I ask that he please make it that it would be revealed good in my eyes. B”h not in my zechut but in my wife’s and everyone else zechut that had a part in it, my wife is here with us today and besides getting stronger and back to her self with physical therapy she is b”h fully functioning, in every aspect. They had said “if” my wife survives she would have to be in the hospital unit for 6 months and then in another care facility for another 6 months.In 1 month my wife walked out on her own 2 feet!. She exited her room to a round of applause from the entire staff in the hallway! A kidush Hashem.The day my wife was discharged the doctors came and asked her what she had felt through out the whole thing. My wife had a stage 4 aneurysm, 5 being the worst, and they said most people don’t make it through a stage 3, and that they never got to speak to someone that went through it. The last scan that my wife did, shows that the aneurysm has completely disappeared “on its own”.  Yishtabach ve’yithalel sh’mo l’ad.   I want to thank Hashem for giving us a miracle with in a miracle. Now when we celebrate Chanukah’s miracle we also celebrate our own. All I can say is always believe in Hashem because he is the only one that is hakol yechol and he can change everything even though it doesn’t seem so. Shabbat shalom and Chanukah sameach. (my wifes story/interview is written up in Bina magazine)

-Hashem thank you for a peaceful week

-my daughter got a ride home from production practice! from John Dewey! Thank you Hashem!  sometimes the little things are the big things. come home safe!

  • Thank you Hashem that my daughter got engaged to a wonderful boy from a wonderful family! Chasdei Hashem!

-It is amazing how we take the small things for granted. The hose of one of the faucets in my kitchen sprung a leak & the plumber is in the process of getting the replacement piece. Meanwhile, even though we still have one perfectly operating sink, we see how much we rely on both sinks & never give it a second thought. Thank you Hashem for the wake up call with  a relatively minor nuisance!!

 

  • My daughter had a Bas Mitzvah celebration this week & we are very proud of her. Thank you Hashem!!

 

-My daughter was driving & hit a meshulach that was crossing the seat. B”H he only had minor bruises. A reminder how important it is to use reflectors, especially on these long winter nights & if dressed in dark clothing.

-Thank You Hashem my son is becoming bar mitzvah tonight

-We greatly thank Hashem for letting us experience a very pleasant, meaningful, safe, healthy and enjoyable trip in Eretz Yisroel!!

Thank You Hashem – Special, Week 165

Thank you  Hashem, for giving me such a true, caring, sincere, friend, in Steven H, along with his friend Ray,they were there for me, when I absolutely needed them. Two and a

half years ago on April 15th 2014 the start of Passover, my mother passed
away. My mother suffered, during her final months, she had talked to me months earlier about the type of monument (Double monument and design) she would like, and upon her final Four months of her life, I promised that I would honor her wishes. Following her death in the first year, I struggled financially, to make the initial  payments and did. With each passing month, and into the second year,  my fathers health began to decline My father is Living on a fixed income with no savings in the bank, I was unable to use his income, to pay towards the monument. His health care
became more expensive, as his health began to rapidly decline (Parkinson’s) along with other complications, and I myself personally, had financial hardships of my own. I am my fathers power of attorney  responsible for his health care and finances as well.
The promise I had made to my mother had come to a stand still and I just could not save up the money to allow me to move forward with my promise. It was four months ago I had asked my very good friend Steven H for his advice regarding my predicament and how I could get much needed assistance. Steven without any hesitation along with his friend Ray were instrumental in coordinating there efforts by reaching out to there community, circulating emails and collected donations (checks) within a Three month period to help pay down the balance owed on my mothers monument. They raised the money from friends, business, organizations, and individuals interested in helping in this cause. Steven H and Ray, made it a point to Assure me that the monument would be paid up in full and would be up in time for Rosh Hashanah / Yom Kippur. I am so very grateful to everyone that it was finally completed and erected on United Hebrew site in Staten Island September 27th 2016. Words cannot begin to express my gratitude and happiness that I feel that the monument is now up and is finally in its rightful place in United Hebrew. I am very thankful to Hashem, for giving me such a great friend and my sincere and heartfelt thank you to everyone  who contributed and for there kindness and sincere generosity which made it possible. The last two and a half years had

been a struggle and made me doubt whether the monument would ever have been completed in my fathers lifetime. He is 89 years old and would also like thank Hashem and to everyone who helped and donated. I wish to take this opportunity to personally pray and ask That Hashem bless each and everyone and there families for a healthy, and prosperous new year ahead. May it be a sweet new year filled with happiness and most importantly health to all.


  • Experienced joy with my son hearing the shofar and not wanting to leave shul.
  • Thank You for Hashem for the many opportunities you give us again and again to come close to You!
  • Thank you Hashem for my family! Thank you Hashem for giving me amazing parents, may they be blessed with a long and healthy life B’H!
  • Thank you H-shem for giving us Rosh Hashanah to give us a chance to do reckoning of all our actions and to make us realize who is the Supreme Being of everything that H-shem is the King and Controller of the World from the biggest things to the smallest thing.
  • Thank you Hashem for inscribing me and my family last Rosh Hashanah ‎in the book of life.
  • Thank you Hashem for Yom kippur. We are so fortunate to have this day to be cleansed from ‎our filthy sins.
  • Thank u Hashem for giving me beautiful healthy children and giving me the strength to take care of them.
  • I was about to get on the road for a very long trip and planned on working with my office computer remotely. Something came up and I had to stop in my office before I headed out. It was a good thing I did. When I got there I saw that the computer I needed to access was not connected. I was able to have it connected and available for remote use. If I had gotten on the road I would have drove a long way and not had the access I needed. Thank you Hashem.
  • Thank you Hashem for by new car lease!
  • Thank You HaShem for giving us the Shofar that’s like no other instrument. It really shakes a person up and helps us to do Teshuva.Than You HaShem for letting me live this past year and all the years before that I really appreciate it. Please Please let all of Bnei Yisrael live to see the Mashiach this year very very soon BzH.

A smile costs nothing but gives much.
It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give.
It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.
None is so rich or mighty that he can get along without it,
And none is so poor that he can’t be made rich by it.
A smile creates happiness in the home,
Fosters goodwill in business, and is the countersign of friendship.
It brings rest to the weary, cheer to the discouraged,
Sunshine to the sad, and it is nature’s best antidote for trouble.
Yet it cannot be bought, begged, borrowed or stolen,
For it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.
Some people are too tired to give you a smile.
Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile as much as he who has no more to give.
Remember, a smile is a crooked line that sets it all straight.


Rabbi Chaim Morgenstern – http://www.toras-chaim.org

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